A great couple communication game called "The Love Map”
involves mapping out each other's likes, dislikes, hobbies, fears, and dreams.
The objective of this game is to reconnect as a couple and rediscover what
makes each other tick. Playing this game creates an opportunity for both
partners to learn more about each other and to show an interest in each other's
lives. By doing so, couples are able to enhance their communication and deepen
their connection.
Rules of the Game
Play this game together in the spirit of laughter and
gentle fun. The more you play, the more you’ll learn about the love maps
concept and how to apply it to you own relationship.
Step 1. Each of you should take a piece of paper
and pen or pencil. Together, randomly decide on twenty numbers between 1 and
60. Write the numbers down in a column on the left-hand side of your paper.
Step 2. Below is a list of numbered questions.
Beginning with the top of your column, match the numbers you chose with the
corresponding question. Each of you should ask your partner this question. If
you partner answers correctly (you be the judge), he or she receives the number
of points indicated for that question, and you receive one point. If your partner
answers incorrectly neither of you receives any points.
The same rules apply when you answer. The winner is the
person with the higher score after you’ve both answered all twenty questions.
Questions:
1.
Name my two closest friends? (2)
2.
What is my favorite musical group, composer, or
instrument? (2)
3.
What was I wearing when we first met? (2)
4.
Name one of my hobbies. (3)
5.
Where was I born? (1)
6.
What stresses am I facing right now? (4)
7.
Describe in detail what I did today, or
yesterday. (4)
8.
When is my birthday? (1)
9.
What is the date of our anniversary? (1)
10.
Who is my favorite relative? (2)
11.
What is my fondest unrealized dream? (5)
12.
What is my favorite flower? (2)
13.
What is one of my greatest fears or disaster
scenarios? (3)
14.
What is my favorite time of day for lovemaking?
(3)
15.
What makes me feel most competent? (4)
16.
What turns me on sexually? (3)
17.
What is my favorite meal? (2)
18.
What is my favorite way to spend an evening? (2)
19.
What is my favorite color? (1)
20.
What personal improvements do I want to make in
my life? (4)
21.
What kind of present would I like best? (2)
22.
What was one of my best childhood experiences?
(2)
23.
What was my favorite vacation? (2)
24.
What is one of my favorite ways to be soothed?
(4)
25.
Who is my greatest source of support (other then
you)? (3)
26.
What is my favorite sport? (2)
27.
What do I most like to do with my time off? (2)
28.
What is one of my favorite weekend activities?
(2)
29.
What is my favorite getaway place? (3)
30.
What is my favorite movie? (2)
31.
What are some of the important events coming up
in my life? How do I feel about them? (4)
32.
What are some of my favorite ways to work out?
(2)
33.
Who was my best friend in childhood? (3)
34.
What is one of my favorite magazines? (2)
35.
Name one of my major rivals or “enemies.” (3)
36.
What would I consider my ideal job? (4)
37.
What do I fear the most? (4)
38.
Who is my least favorite relative? (3)
39.
What is my favorite holiday? (2)
40.
What kinds of books do I most like to read? (3)
41.
What is my favorite TV show? (2)
42.
What side of the bed do I prefer? (2)
43.
What am I most sad about? (4)
44.
Name one of my concerns or worries. (4)
45.
What medical problems do I worry about? (2)
46.
What was my most embarrassing moment? (3)
47.
What was my worst childhood experience? (3)
48.
Name two of the people I most admire. (4)
49.
Name my major rival or enemy. (3)
50.
Of all the people we both know who do I like the
least? (3)
51.
What is one of my favorite desserts? (2)
52.
What is my social security number? (2)
53.
Name one of my favorite novels. (2)
54.
What is my favorite restaurant? (2)
55.
What are two of my aspirations, hopes, and
wishes? (4)
56.
Do I have a secret ambition? What is it? (4)
57.
What foods do I hate (2)
58.
What is my favorite animal? (2)
59.
What is my favorite song? (2)
60.
Which sports team is my favorite? (2)
Play this game as frequently as you’d like. The more you
play, the more you’ll come to understand each other. And remember have fun!
Sources and Additional Information:
https://lifebuilderscounseling.org/wp-content/uploads/lovemap20questionsgame-exercies1.pdf
https://elicounsellor.wixsite.com/antibes/post/2016/02/13/tune-up-the-love-map-game
