Warning: You will both likely feel more
present, playful, connected, and perhaps even turned-on after playing this
game.
Directions: Divide into pairs. Each member of the pair
has a 7 minutes to ask for exactly what they want from their partner in the
moment. Their partner has the option to either give it or say no. The asking
partner keeps making requests until their time is up, and keeps asking for
specifics until they get exactly what they want (provided the other person
wants to give it). Take a few minutes to share what that was like, and then
switch roles.
Notes: Requests
can be physical, mental, or emotional, for example: “Would you give me a back
rub?” “Would you tell me what you think about me?” “Would you ask me questions
about myself?”
Takeouts:
1. This game is not all about yes. Feel free to say no if
the request does not seem to be comfortable for you. Do not think you have
obligations to say yes all the time, and learn important skill not just to say
no, but also do not take personally, if your partner says no to you.
2. You may be surprised, but might find it quite
challenging to answer to yourself, what do you really want? Your time is
running up, and you should decide fast of what is your immediate desire, which
can be instantly satisfied by your partner. Have respect and be reasonable and
polite with your requests. Remember, it is just a game, and intention is for
both of you to win.
3. Try to emotionally connect to the partner before you
even ask. If you try to do so, you may find that the requests will also depend
on the situation, of who you work at the moment with.
